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In 2016, @MrAaron posted the following thread.

I feel like this did not gain enough attention and decided to make another one.

I want this thread to be here for people that are struggling with mental health, or just need to get something off their chest. For many people talking is the solution to many things because other people have different views on certain things. This thread will be here for anyone to reply so they can get the advice they might need to move on in life.

I myself have had a very tough last 3 years struggling with a deeply hidden depression. No one knew I felt like this, so no one helped and this made it worse for me because I thought they didn't care. Obviously, they did care but just didn't know. As soon as I told my family they were all very surprised. I was always the quiet type with short answers and never really talked that much in general. They thought it was just me being me.
Recently I decided to finally take a step and make an appointment with the doctor's office, they redirected me to a psychologist and gave me medication. This didn't feel like it worked for me so I fell back into the old bad habits of not doing anything and this caused me to skip school and eventually quit due to not being able to continue anyways.
Thoughts of harming myself, harming others, stealing from others and even suicide are very common when I am not distracted from doing anything. Sleeping is impossible for me unless I smoked weed, which I thought wasn't a bad thing but it obviously is. I still smoke weed but it is starting to become a socializing thing and not an "Alone in my room high as fuck" thing. My sleep is slowly recovering but I now struggle with constant sleep paralysis and nightmares to the point where I am no longer scared of them but just think 'Ahh... Not again'. In my sleep paralysis I see things which I am starting to doubt if they are real or not, which really fucks with my mind. I also deeply look into them due to not being scared anymore.
Right now I can't really get anything done and due to the corona virus it is now easier for me to avoid contact which isn't helping at all. Life has hit me like a train recently and I have become very very numb in everything.

Recently I have also had a lot of deja vu moments right after predicting something which makes me feel very weird, I can not explain this feeling. For example, I watch Formula 1 and I said 2 weeks before the race that I thought something bad was going to happen and guess what, Lap 1, Romain Grosjean has a massive crash in which it was a miracle he survived.
This just makes me feel absolutely crazy and I start having deep thoughts, which is a bad thing for me right now.

I stopped taking the medication because I don't want to be dependent on pills, I am extremely against taking medication to solve your problems and I know I don't need them. I just need to find out why I feel like this, what is causing it and then take the necessary steps to solve those problems.

Mental health is joked about a lot and I understand why. It became kind off a taboo because no one really wants to talk about it if they have it themselves, which I also understand. I want this thread to be here for people that are struggling with some form of mental health so they can vent to people that are going through the same or similar feelings.

If you ever think about harming yourself, seek help. Talk to your parents, talk to your friends, anyone. You are NOT alone, we all go through some shit but for some people it is worse than for others. Don't let your mind take over your heart and keep fighting against it, it will become better one day and I strongly believe that.
Please talk about it here if you are scared to talk to your relatives. It will help.
 
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Personally, I believe people arent aware of MHI. Some people would treat ADHD as if your a bad kid in school and punished for doing bad things, which could look like the kid is doing good things in their own eyes. You see as you drive around my county, you have up posters about MHI, but not alot of people actually pay attention, to stop and read and think about it.
 
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Personally, I believe people arent aware of MHI. Some people would treat ADHD as if your a bad kid in school and punished for doing bad things, which could look like the kid is doing good things in their own eyes. You see as you drive around my county, you have up posters about MHI, but not alot of people actually pay attention, to stop and read and think about it.
Daft PunkAs an ADHD sufferers myself, I take a very strong dislike towards it being referred to as a mental illness because it isn’t. It’s a behavioural disorder.
 
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As an ADHD sufferers myself, I take a very strong dislike towards it being referred to as a mental illness because it isn’t. It’s a behavioural disorder.
BigBenjiIn primary school, teachers and staff wasnt aware of MHI, meaning that if I kicked off, I would of been restrained/severely held down, or put into a soft room, which they got for me whilst i was there, then removed when i left.
 
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Honestly, I never really talked to people after mum died. I'd just bottle it up and let it sit there which led to further issues, I'd fall behind at school, not sleep properly (still never do) and I even had bad mood swings.

The only person I properly talked to was my bereavement Councillor, but I'd still find a way to make myself feel like shit. I'd forget about homework, chores I had to do etc.

I ended up falling a sleep in a science exam and my dad was not happy. Teachers rarely knew what was going on, the only information they had was
My mum had died

That is all I had, 2 weeks after my mum died, 2 pricks broke into my house and stole money, my mums jewellery and other precious things.

This was all 3 years ago when I was in Year 7, I'm in Year 11 now and taking GCSEs in the summer, and even that bothers me.

Something that didn't help was some people, who I won't name, took it like a pinch of salt and took the mick on purpose, not a joke, it'd be people from this community and people at my school.

The true person who really helped me the day my mum died, and afterwards, was @Henk , he kept me talking and really helped.
 
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Honestly, I never really talked to people after mum died. I'd just bottle it up and let it sit there which led to further issues, I'd fall behind at school, not sleep properly (still never do) and I even had bad mood swings.

The only person I properly talked to was my bereavement Councillor, but I'd still find a way to make myself feel like shit. I'd forget about homework, chores I had to do etc.

I ended up falling a sleep in a science exam and my dad was not happy. Teachers rarely knew what was going on, the only information they had was
My mum had died

That is all I had, 2 weeks after my mum died, 2 pricks broke into my house and stole money, my mums jewellery and other precious things.

This was all 3 years ago when I was in Year 7, I'm in Year 11 now and taking GCSEs in the summer, and even that bothers me.

Something that didn't help was some people, who I won't name, took it like a pinch of salt and took the mick on purpose, not a joke, it'd be people from this community and people at my school.

The true person who really helped me the day my mum died, and afterwards, was @Henk , he kept me talking and really helped.
Jimmy JacksonIt's great to hear that you found someone to talk to! It's one of the most important things, keeping all the feelings inside of you is dangerous.

If community members are causing issues in these regards, feel free to PM me. There is no place for people like that here.
 
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Honestly, I never really talked to people after mum died. I'd just bottle it up and let it sit there which led to further issues, I'd fall behind at school, not sleep properly (still never do) and I even had bad mood swings.

The only person I properly talked to was my bereavement Councillor, but I'd still find a way to make myself feel like shit. I'd forget about homework, chores I had to do etc.

I ended up falling a sleep in a science exam and my dad was not happy. Teachers rarely knew what was going on, the only information they had was
My mum had died

That is all I had, 2 weeks after my mum died, 2 pricks broke into my house and stole money, my mums jewellery and other precious things.

This was all 3 years ago when I was in Year 7, I'm in Year 11 now and taking GCSEs in the summer, and even that bothers me.

Something that didn't help was some people, who I won't name, took it like a pinch of salt and took the mick on purpose, not a joke, it'd be people from this community and people at my school.

The true person who really helped me the day my mum died, and afterwards, was @Henk , he kept me talking and really helped.
Jimmy JacksonI'm sorry you had to go through that. Also for all the people making jokes or bringing it up as a insult, seriously rethink yourself if you're going to be a low life prick on the internet.
 
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As someone who struggled with severe depression I strongly encourage people to actually reach out to people you know who you might be worried about and try and reach out to them and be a mate. Don't have to throw yourself down the rabbit hole when it comes to dealing with their life issues but keep an eye out for them and try talking to them every once in awhile. A little goes a long way.

Cautionary tale from experience: NEVER Put yourself in a relationship you would feel uncomfortable with when it comes to mental health issues on either sides, you are not obliged to date someone solely because they are depressed regardless of how far they try guilting you into it. People who do this are obviously playing on your softer side to their advantage.
 
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As someone who struggled with severe depression I strongly encourage people to actually reach out to people you know who you might be worried about and try and reach out to them and be a mate. Don't have to throw yourself down the rabbit hole when it comes to dealing with their life issues but keep an eye out for them and try talking to them every once in awhile. A little goes a long way.

Cautionary tale from experience: NEVER Put yourself in a relationship you would feel uncomfortable with when it comes to mental health issues on either sides, you are not obliged to date someone solely because they are depressed regardless of how far they try guilting you into it. People who do this are obviously playing on your softer side to their advantage.
BigBenjican confirm: do not get into relationships because they are sad
 
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As someone who struggled with severe depression I strongly encourage people to actually reach out to people you know who you might be worried about and try and reach out to them and be a mate. Don't have to throw yourself down the rabbit hole when it comes to dealing with their life issues but keep an eye out for them and try talking to them every once in awhile. A little goes a long way.

Cautionary tale from experience: NEVER Put yourself in a relationship you would feel uncomfortable with when it comes to mental health issues on either sides, you are not obliged to date someone solely because they are depressed regardless of how far they try guilting you into it. People who do this are obviously playing on your softer side to their advantage.
BigBenjiThis is a very common thing, that people start or stay in relationships because the other part is depressed and think a relationship will fix their issues.
My belief is that an already existing relationship, where you can actually talk about feelings it could help. But you still need to see a doctor.

But if you are starting a relationship or staying in a relationship where you are not THAT close, where you can not speak about anything with each other. Then the best thing is probably to take a break, while the other part is getting help. Either you could make it worse, or you could yourself start becoming depressed.
 
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Good post @Synatec Probably one of the better posts I've read on this forum for a couple of years.

Depression is nothing to joke about, but unfortunately, a lot of people do. And even more, people have a hard time understanding it. From my own experience, a lot of people are unsure how to deal with it.
Untreated depression is very dangerous. But the very hard step to talk to a doctor is definitely worth it.

Unfortunately here in Sweden at least the common trend is the give patients medication and then send them on their way. This is not the way to help. Medicine can absolutely be a part of it, but regular sessions are required. Sessions with a professional might not even be required, if you have someone else you can talk to. Sometimes, it can be much easier to talk to a family member or even a friend. Another very important step is to keep talking sessions up, depression doesn't just go away.

I am unsure how it works in other countries, but here in Sweden you can together with your doctor plan to slowly stop using antidepressants. Depending on the dosage, it could be very dangerous to just stop out of the blue. A lot of the antidepressants make you addicted to them, which can turn for the worst if you just stop.

In general, if you are going to start with antidepressants, consult with at least two doctors. And make sure you read the warning labels! Honestly, this is something everyone should do before starting to use any kind of medication that you are supposed to take for a long time.

When I was around 13, doctors after a long investigation noticed that my metabolism was not like it should. meaning I had a hard time gaining weight and resulted in me being very very tired. I was told to start taking pills, so I did. What the doctor did not say was that there was a very slight chance of you getting depressed while eating this kind of pill. I then received antidepressants, to counter the effect of my metabolism pills. Which just caused even more issues. I went into a very deep depression, which took several years to get out of.
When I turned 17, I for some reason thought I knew better than everyone else. Stopped eating my pills, did not tell anyone about this, and as expected this resulted in some very bad things.

If anyone in this community is depressed, find someone to talk to. And see a doctor. Follow the advice I have given above. If you are under the age of 18 it's much easier to get help fast, in Sweden at least. So start early!
As I'm 23, I would not be able to attend regular sessions with a doctor, nor would I get very good follow up if I used the public health system.
Therefore I have resorted to paying an insane amount of money to use private health care.

Even if it's hard to talk about your feelings and issues, it's definitely worth it. The pain of opening yourself up is much less than the pain of hitting rock bottom.
 
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Good post @Synatec Probably one of the better posts I've read on this forum for a couple of years.

Depression is nothing to joke about, but unfortunately, a lot of people do. And even more, people have a hard time understanding it. From my own experience, a lot of people are unsure how to deal with it.
Untreated depression is very dangerous. But the very hard step to talk to a doctor is definitely worth it.

Unfortunately here in Sweden at least the common trend is the give patients medication and then send them on their way. This is not the way to help. Medicine can absolutely be a part of it, but regular sessions are required. Sessions with a professional might not even be required, if you have someone else you can talk to. Sometimes, it can be much easier to talk to a family member or even a friend. Another very important step is to keep talking sessions up, depression doesn't just go away.

I am unsure how it works in other countries, but here in Sweden you can together with your doctor plan to slowly stop using antidepressants. Depending on the dosage, it could be very dangerous to just stop out of the blue. A lot of the antidepressants make you addicted to them, which can turn for the worst if you just stop.

In general, if you are going to start with antidepressants, consult with at least two doctors. And make sure you read the warning labels! Honestly, this is something everyone should do before starting to use any kind of medication that you are supposed to take for a long time.

When I was around 13, doctors after a long investigation noticed that my metabolism was not like it should. meaning I had a hard time gaining weight and resulted in me being very very tired. I was told to start taking pills, so I did. What the doctor did not say was that there was a very slight chance of you getting depressed while eating this kind of pill. I then received antidepressants, to counter the effect of my metabolism pills. Which just caused even more issues. I went into a very deep depression, which took several years to get out of.
When I turned 17, I for some reason thought I knew better than everyone else. Stopped eating my pills, did not tell anyone about this, and as expected this resulted in some very bad things.

If anyone in this community is depressed, find someone to talk to. And see a doctor. Follow the advice I have given above. If you are under the age of 18 it's much easier to get help fast, in Sweden at least. So start early!
As I'm 23, I would not be able to attend regular sessions with a doctor, nor would I get very good follow up if I used the public health system.
Therefore I have resorted to paying an insane amount of money to use private health care.

Even if it's hard to talk about your feelings and issues, it's definitely worth it. The pain of opening yourself up is much less than the pain of hitting rock bottom.
SamuelThe stopping of taking the pills is something I've done myself. At the time you genuinely think you know best (after all it's our own body right?)
I stopped taking everything for my Mental Health, Seizures, Anorexia etc. Needless to say within a week I was a wreck, felt like someone was pressed up against me in bed or in my room (I lived alone at the time). Now I know to listen to the doctor when they say to come off them slowly, and I'd recommend others do the same.
 
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Exactly, I've taken pretty strong antidepressants, and stopping from a high dosage out of the blue was my worst nightmare. I honestly can't say I've recovered, and it has been a few years since I got back on track.
SamuelThese were the 4th different ones I'd been on. They made me vomit and feel so nauseas, which for someone in my position who's been told by professionals to 'avoid vomitting at all costs' wasn't very good.
To go from taking around 8-9 tablets a day to 0 was quite weird to say the least.
 
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The stopping of taking the pills is something I've done myself. At the time you genuinely think you know best (after all it's our own body right?)
I stopped taking everything for my Mental Health, Seizures, Anorexia etc. Needless to say within a week I was a wreck, felt like someone was pressed up against me in bed or in my room (I lived alone at the time). Now I know to listen to the doctor when they say to come off them slowly, and I'd recommend others do the same.
DuffyI came off them and luckily didn't experience that, heard it is pretty dangerous though and a coin flip with your well-being.
 
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I think a whole lot of us can relate to this stuff, I'm pretty much in a very broken family with a dad that was abusive to me, left me at the age of ten.. a narcissistic brother, a sad mom n' all that.

I've been depressed for a very long ass time, but that was mostly because of being heartbroken when I met the love of my life, we dated for 9 months and seriously, he was the best, but in the end, you'll always have to tell yourself that stuff happens for a reason and that the person you were dating or have been with, was in the end, not the one that was made for you.

All this happened 4 years ago and I've finally been able to let go just a month or two back after I decided to talk to him about how I felt, and, communication is the best medicine for depression in my eyes. If you can't talk about your feelings and you bottle it up, it'll only get worse and worse. So, if you do ever feel sad, please talk about it, it doesn't need to necessarily be your mom or your dad, cause that can be very awkward and scary. It can be someone you really trust or like over the internet, and that's already a step in the right direction.

If you need anyone to speak to about anything, DM me or add me on Steam, I'd love to listen to you.

Also, if you're from the Netherlands, what I figured out is, if you want to talk to a psychologist your healthcare will cover it, at least, that's what I heard. I have Menzis. I haven't taken too much time into researching it though, I just heard that from my ex.
 
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Most people don't know that i suffer with Mental health issues i have been diagnosed with PTSD due to my childhood and I get bullied a fuck load at school
It got really severe at some points when this kid egged my house and kept threatening me i had troubles sleeping at night even squirrels moving outside would freak me out and I would go outside to check ready to find him then i had support from a professional over the summer holidays this year helped for a bit i got a job in a coin shop it was my dream and she helped with my self confidence but it got really bad when i came back with racism and then i managed to talk to a youth engagement officer and was so close to chucking the books at the kid that threw massive rocks at me while yelling racial slurs but i decided not. its good to see perp taking Mental health seriously thanks also thanks to Flugs for taking my mental health issues such as being hyper and getting angry as fuck into concideration when dealing with situations
 
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Most people don't know that i suffer with Mental health issues i have been diagnosed with PTSD due to my childhood and I get bullied a fuck load at school
It got really severe at some points when this kid egged my house and kept threatening me i had troubles sleeping at night even squirrels moving outside would freak me out and I would go outside to check ready to find him then i had support from a professional over the summer holidays this year helped for a bit i got a job in a coin shop it was my dream and she helped with my self confidence but it got really bad when i came back with racism and then i managed to talk to a youth engagement officer and was so close to chucking the books at the kid that threw massive rocks at me while yelling racial slurs but i decided not. its good to see perp taking Mental health seriously thanks also thanks to Flugs for taking my mental health issues such as being hyper and getting angry as fuck into concideration when dealing with situations
aarondavid45Lots of people have things going on but most people don't have the courage to say anything about it, glad that you were brave enough to open up to me so you could be dealt with more fairly. I hope everything gets better over time mate.
 
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I'm not the type of guy who'd talk about this type of thing publicly - or even privately, but I'd like to add something as I've seen a few things about joking about depression etc and I'd like to give my input on this.

I personally truly believe to joke about something is to better understand and to destigmatise something, but there is a difference to joking about something and making fun of something, a clarification that is very important in this case. Joking about something can often be a way for people to talk about something - without actually talking about it, and can be a form of "therapy" for many. Saying that Depression is something that must never be joked about, I feel adds to the stigma around it.

This is of course not to say that depression is a laughable subject, it isn't - but I think there's a distinction between joking about a subject with friends to help each other better understand something and come to terms with it through comedy than making fun of people MHI's.
 
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I'm not the type of guy who'd talk about this type of thing publicly - or even privately, but I'd like to add something as I've seen a few things about joking about depression etc and I'd like to give my input on this.

I personally truly believe to joke about something is to better understand and to destigmatise something, but there is a difference to joking about something and making fun of something, a clarification that is very important in this case. Joking about something can often be a way for people to talk about something - without actually talking about it, and can be a form of "therapy" for many. Saying that Depression is something that must never be joked about, I feel adds to the stigma around it.

This is of course not to say that depression is a laughable subject, it isn't - but I think there's a distinction between joking about a subject with friends to help each other better understand something and come to terms with it through comedy than making fun of people MHI's.
CensoredExeFor many people it's also a coping mechanism, glad you mentioned that, there will always be people who are insensitive but on the other side of the spectrum you have the people who like to joke about it in order to make it lighter for themselves and not as much of a burden.

When we laugh at things we no longer take them seriously, and for many people it's the best way to deal with mental health issues and not let them manifest themselves into something that can be more threatening.
 
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For anyone suffering with mental health issues or just wanna talk here is a discord for you to go to you can talk to people and get help from community members
they have saved my life literally i use to be in a really dark place and somehow i found this place please if your struggling and don't wanna talk to a professional who writes it all down and shit go these lads but if your suicidal go to a Professional
 
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Depression is a bitch, a huge killer in society but specifically in young men. Had 2 friends commit suicide back when I was 16-17 due to stress of college and the transition being too much, I think everyone nowadays has had an experience and although I may seem like someone terrible to come to with your personal problems I'm always here to help.

Love u all
 
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I am very fortunate to have never really experienced many issues mentally myself despite living with a chronic disease which had me bedridden for 18 months. I am much better now but I know how much the support of being able to speak to people and for them to just listen can mean and how much of a positive impact can have.

If anyone ever feels like they just want to talk I am very willing to listen and I am very happy that many of the community has said the same. Just send me a DM on Discord, the forums, TS or Steam and I will stop what I am doing and listen.
 
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I’m still quite young, so there’s time for things to get better.. or worse, but all be myself a talker, I don’t tend to talk about this sort of thing because I’ve simply never felt comfortable doing so. I’ll say some stuff nonetheless.

For the last 3-4 years, my sister has been battling depression and this impacts not just me but also the rest of us. I can’t put a finger on why this is, but she’s a very naturally intelligent person and I think it was massively to do with the extraordinary amount of pressure she was putting on herself to succeed for years on end. It was just such a shame to see her turn from one of the most vibrant people to someone who doesn’t even leave her bedroom some days. I had no clue she was feeling like this for years, I noticed a difference but I always thought she was just being edgy; until that fateful day I was told that she’d drank bleach. I still can’t really comprehend that someone so loved as her would even consider something that stupid, but I can’t bear to put myself in her shoes so I wouldn’t know. I can thankfully say though, that she’s improving and I’m seeing more of her best qualities once again - definitely on the right track, she’s off to interview at Cambridge soon and everything seems to be going well once again.

I say this because I think sometimes we forget how much the mental health of people close to us can affect our own mental health. I definitely beat myself to shit for a while at the thought of what kind of brother I am for my own sister to feel like that but at seeing her improvement, thoughts like that no longer cross my mind.

I’ll leave this boxed off so I don’t have to re-read myself saying it, but I’m very sexually confused. I’ve always kind of known I’m gay, and it’s recently gotten “worse”. I can’t change it so I don’t bother giving myself shit for it, but it’s something that I’ve hated myself for in the past and I’ve only really come to accept it now. Being open about it is a whole different thing, this might be a step in the right direction though. I’m sure it’s not just England youth that’s like this, but kids/teenagers are homophobic as fuck and I don’t really know why. It’s because of this, that I’m absolutely terrified to do or act a certain way around lots of people because of how it will be received. It also contributes massively, and essentially created, the anxiety I have. Especially meeting new people. I’ve grown up having to change certain parts of myself for different people to the point where I’ve sometimes forgotten who I actually am, but I’m in a group of friends currently whom I’m a lot more comfortable with and can be much more myself. I’m sure everything will become clearer as I continue to grow, but I can’t see much actually changing.

Like everyone else has said, if you’re ever feeling down and need someone to speak to - feel free to shoot me a message.
 
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I’m still quite young, so there’s time for things to get better.. or worse, but all be myself a talker, I don’t tend to talk about this sort of thing because I’ve simply never felt comfortable doing so. However, I’d like to get some stuff off my chest.

For the last 3-4 years, my sister has been battling depression and this impacts not just me but also the rest of us. I can’t put a finger on why this is, but she’s a very naturally intelligent person and I think it was massively to do with the extraordinary amount of pressure she was putting on herself to succeed for years on end. It was just such a shame to see her turn from one of the most vibrant people to someone who doesn’t even leave her bedroom some days. I had no clue she was feeling like this for years, I noticed a difference but I always thought she was just being edgy; until that fateful day I was told that she’d drank bleach. I still can’t really comprehend that someone so loved as her would even consider something that stupid, but I can’t bear to put myself in her shoes so I wouldn’t know. I can thankfully say though, that she’s improving and I’m seeing more of her best qualities once again - definitely on the right track, she’s off to interview at Cambridge soon and everything seems to be going well once again.

I say this because I think sometimes we forget how much the mental health of people close to us can affect our own mental health. I definitely beat myself to shit for a while at the thought of what kind of brother I am for my own sister to feel like that but at seeing her improvement, thoughts like that no longer cross my mind.

I’ll leave this boxed off so I don’t have to re-read myself saying it, but I’m very sexually confused. I’ve always kind of known I’m gay, and it’s recently gotten “worse”. I can’t change it so I don’t bother giving myself shit for it, but it’s something that I’ve hated myself for in the past and I’ve only really come to accept it now. Being open about it is a whole different thing, this might be a step in the right direction though. I’m sure it’s not just England youth that’s like this, but kids/teenagers are homosexual as fuck and I don’t really know why. It’s because of this, that I’m absolutely terrified to do or act a certain way around lots of people because of how it will be received. It also contributes massively, and essentially created, the anxiety I have. Especially meeting new people. I’ve grown up having to change certain parts of myself for different people to the point where I’ve forgotten who I actually am, but I’m in a group of friends currently whom I’m a lot more comfortable with and can be much more myself. I’m sure everything will become clearer as I continue to grow, but I can’t see much actually changing.

Like everyone else has said, if you’re ever feeling down and need someone to speak to - feel free to shoot me a message.
flugsHonestly didn't even sus a single moment that you were gay, be open and be fucking happy dude, besides you being toxic in sits you're v nice
 
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I’m still quite young, so there’s time for things to get better.. or worse, but all be myself a talker, I don’t tend to talk about this sort of thing because I’ve simply never felt comfortable doing so. However, I’d like to get some stuff off my chest.

For the last 3-4 years, my sister has been battling depression and this impacts not just me but also the rest of us. I can’t put a finger on why this is, but she’s a very naturally intelligent person and I think it was massively to do with the extraordinary amount of pressure she was putting on herself to succeed for years on end. It was just such a shame to see her turn from one of the most vibrant people to someone who doesn’t even leave her bedroom some days. I had no clue she was feeling like this for years, I noticed a difference but I always thought she was just being edgy; until that fateful day I was told that she’d drank bleach. I still can’t really comprehend that someone so loved as her would even consider something that stupid, but I can’t bear to put myself in her shoes so I wouldn’t know. I can thankfully say though, that she’s improving and I’m seeing more of her best qualities once again - definitely on the right track, she’s off to interview at Cambridge soon and everything seems to be going well once again.

I say this because I think sometimes we forget how much the mental health of people close to us can affect our own mental health. I definitely beat myself to shit for a while at the thought of what kind of brother I am for my own sister to feel like that but at seeing her improvement, thoughts like that no longer cross my mind.

I’ll leave this boxed off so I don’t have to re-read myself saying it, but I’m very sexually confused. I’ve always kind of known I’m gay, and it’s recently gotten “worse”. I can’t change it so I don’t bother giving myself shit for it, but it’s something that I’ve hated myself for in the past and I’ve only really come to accept it now. Being open about it is a whole different thing, this might be a step in the right direction though. I’m sure it’s not just England youth that’s like this, but kids/teenagers are homophobic as fuck and I don’t really know why. It’s because of this, that I’m absolutely terrified to do or act a certain way around lots of people because of how it will be received. It also contributes massively, and essentially created, the anxiety I have. Especially meeting new people. I’ve grown up having to change certain parts of myself for different people to the point where I’ve forgotten who I actually am, but I’m in a group of friends currently whom I’m a lot more comfortable with and can be much more myself. I’m sure everything will become clearer as I continue to grow, but I can’t see much actually changing.

Like everyone else has said, if you’re ever feeling down and need someone to speak to - feel free to shoot me a message.
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You know, just seeing this thread and all the replies made me realize how nearly everyone that you interact with nowadays, and especially this generation has struggled with some deep issue, whether it be a MHI or a disease or a tough life. I personally have been taking medication for 2 years now and battling with depression and anxiety and man it is tough. We all joke about it to hide the fact that we have these issues or try to see these issues in a positive way but sometimes you have to look at things for what they are. During this COVID period, people have become much braver and opening up has become encouraged and I can't thank those who have put themselves out there enough. It is okay to suffer, it is okay to have issues, it is okay to be sad. You are never alone, people understand. At times where I've attempted suicide, I wish I had reached out to someone to tell me all this because one person can make the biggest difference. I encourage you all to be open about your issues, reach out to your friends, family, and regularly ask them about how they're doing. Thank you @Synatec for bringing this serious issue to light, It'll make a big difference in this community.
 
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You know, just seeing this thread and all the replies made me realize how nearly everyone that you interact with nowadays, and especially this generation has struggled with some deep issue, whether it be a MHI or a disease or a tough life. I personally have been taking medication for 2 years now and battling with depression and anxiety and man it is tough. We all joke about it to hide the fact that we have these issues or try to see these issues in a positive way but sometimes you have to look at things for what they are. During this COVID period, people have become much braver and opening up has become encouraged and I can't thank those who have put themselves out there enough. It is okay to suffer, it is okay to have issues, it is okay to be sad. You are never alone, people understand. At times where I've attempted suicide, I wish I had reached out to someone to tell me all this because one person can make the biggest difference. I encourage you all to be open about your issues, reach out to your friends, family, and regularly ask them about how they're doing. Thank you @Synatec for bringing this serious issue to light, It'll make a big difference in this community.
TravisI completely agree, this is a very serious issue. And as people sometimes play games, and go online to get a break from their lifes. I feel it's important that people should feel safe talking about it if they wish. Can be easier talking to someone online than face to face.
 
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I've been feeling really bad recently i feel like no in my life really likes me they just deal with me and I've been feeling really lonely recently
and I'm just sick of it I've not been my self recently i try to make friends but it just doesn't work when i go out im just alone and i dont know anyone in town and i feel like everyone just hates me in life and ive just been feeling really shitty recently especially because of lockdown and being at home
 
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I'm very sorry to hear that. The feeling of being lonely is not a good feeling. It can even be a dangerous feeling. I've for my entire life felt lonely, even if I've had friends and family. It's just recently that I've started to not feel lonely. I found one person that magically got me to really deal with my issues, and that made me actually feel that I am not lonely.

I've found that honesty and openness are key. In November of last year, I actually for the first time spoke about my issues, feelings, and thoughts. Something I've ignored and hidden for years, and it can be hard to do, but definitely worth it. If you open up to your family or close friends about this, I promise you will feel better.

And making new friends can be hard for some people. Some people make friends very easily, and some don't. At some point, you will find people you match with, and then it's important to keep those friends close so you do not lose them. If you need people to talk to or play with. I would recommend looking at discord servers, there are servers for this reason. That can help you find new friends, or just let you talk to a random person.

I know very little of you, so I can only speak from my own experience at this point. I usually say "The only way is up", which I fully believe. I've been in some very dark places in my life, and recently I've hit rock bottom, which nearly cost me my life. And even if I am on a road to feeling better, I still often feel that people don't care. Even if they do. And it's something that will never stop with me, which is why the people near me have learned to show extra much that they care so my dumb brain understands.

I would strongly recommend that you speak to your parents about this. Even if it feels useless, or dumb. It's totally worth it. Keeping these things hidden, will result in chaos. Trust me, I was doing it for my whole childhood.

I hope you feel better soon, and that you find some friends you can enjoy time with! Just don't rush things! And remember, the only way is up!
 
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@CensoredExe yeah its just i feel like here especially im not liked and that plays into my experience a lot because if i wanna play here i need to actually be some what liked like in life you need people to like you otherwise you will be alone
 
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Just wanted to say you are not alone, I've had a good start to 2020, although already feeling lonely af, some changes in my life made other things better, but then later and later into the year I felt more and more lonely, this wasn't related to corona because it hasn't hit here yet at that point but I've just been feeling unloved even by my closest friends, who would barely talk to me or only vent to me then act like they don't know me irl, it was really fucking painful, only about a month or 2 ago I stopped feeling that way, in a way I am either numb in social situations I literally zone out or get angry and don't let people approach me, Which isn't all bad, I still have close friends and we have a lot of fun so that ultra loneliness is more of a thing in the past but I really hate everyone else very much.
 
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its not about the amount of friends u have, its about the quality. so always keep your closest friends close to you my friend <3

It sounds really lonely if I say that i have only 1 friend that I really talk to, but It's not. Its just that we are long long friends since school and that I can trust on him you know.
 
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Yep, very true, I've always had that mindset because well... I'm introverted anyways so many friends is kinda hard. Tbh I wouldn't mind being alone but the place where I live really makes me feel lonely regardless, really boring, nothing to do and I don't like it. I always fantasize that if I'd live in a city I would actually like, I wouldn't care about being alone, would go to some coffee shop all the time and relax. That's what I keep imagining.
 
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