Working & Managing Stress

I have been reading over some recent Forums Posts and I am interested to know what some of the Community does for work, as well as how they deal with challenges they may face (depending on the type of work they do).

I am a Live-In Carer who spends lots of time with individuals with Additional Support Needs and Challenging Behaviour. I am the first to admit it is a very hard job, but, one which also comes with a lot of reward when things go well. To tail off that, how do you deal with challenging situations? How do you de-stress? General Discussion but also looking for a little advice around this as I deal with some very mentally and physically challenging behaviour over 72hr shifts - It's a hard graft!


Thanks for reading, any comments would be greatly appreciated.

I don’t have a job idk why you would ask

I used to work in a warehouse for a major distribution company as a supervisor of three different areas of "the floor" as they would call it. One area held the responsibility over roughly 120 associates, the other much less but held some of the most valuable items to be distributed which contributed to a massive importance in moving its volume (accompanied with obstacles at every turn to move said volume), and the other I was meant to solely be responsible for a group of 40 women of varying ages. It was 10 hours a day, 4 days a week, 1hr 30min commute, but the stress of each day was so immense, that the extra 2 days were basically non existent.

This is the worst job I've ever had in my life, and one of the mechanisms I employed to deal with it, was making sure that it would be the worst job I would ever have in my life. To your questions; while each day withered me down further and further, I hyper focused at any point of my free time (even during work) on a plan to find a job that would be the complete opposite. I applied everywhere, including within the company, politicked with people in the company who were where I wanted to be, had multiple interviews, multiple failures, near successes (the worst kind of failures). Although it would take me roughly 600 applications to get where I am now, with each application, 3 stage interview, company ghosting, etc. tearing at me along the way, the fact that I was putting forth that effort made it easier to deal with the stress of the job I had. I wouldn't stop until I had succeeded because I had no choice. The simple answer for dealing with the challenges presented to you is to throw your all at it and be professional even when you hate it at all. In my eyes at the time, I could not afford compromise myself because the company was a Forbes 500, there was upward mobility in that warehouse, and I didn't want to make a habit of burning bridges on my career path. I rustled with the idea of quitting a lot, but the problem with that is that it would make me a quitter and I had no "Plan B". There's not really any simple answer on how to deal with a job you hate and that grinds at your soul, but the best option imo is to "get the fuck outta there". Almost every day my mantra was "I need to get the fuck outta here" and I did, towards my dream job.

In your case, you don't seem to be nearly as desperate to escape your situation as I was, so your method of dealing with stress and conquering challenging obstacles will be different. If you truly want to find peace with where you work, but are finding it hard, maybe try for a different role in that same building, that same area of work? Something to shake up the daily autonomy.

sza said:

I used to work in a warehouse for a major distribution company as a supervisor of three different areas of "the floor" as they would call it. One area held the responsibility over roughly 120 associates, the other much less but held some of the most valuable items to be distributed which contributed to a massive importance in moving its volume (accompanied with obstacles at every turn to move said volume), and the other I was meant to solely be responsible for a group of 40 women of varying ages. It was 10 hours a day, 4 days a week, 1hr 30min commute, but the stress of each day was so immense, that the extra 2 days were basically non existent.

This is the worst job I've ever had in my life, and one of the mechanisms I employed to deal with it, was making sure that it would be the worst job I would ever have in my life. To your questions; while each day withered me down further and further, I hyper focused at any point of my free time (even during work) on a plan to find a job that would be the complete opposite. I applied everywhere, including within the company, politicked with people in the company who where I wanted to be, had multiple interviews, multiple failures, near successes (the worst kind of failures). Although it would take me roughly 600 applications to get where I am now, with each application, 3 stage interview, company ghosting, etc. tearing at me along the way, the fact that I was putting forth that effort made it easier to deal with the stress of the job I had. I wouldn't stop until I had succeeded because I had no choice. The simple answer for dealing with the challenges presented to you is to throw your all at it and be professional even when you hate it at all. In my eyes at the time, I could not afford compromise myself because the company was a Forbes 500, there was upward mobility in that warehouse, and I didn't want to make a habit of burning bridges on my career path. I rustled with the idea of quitting a lot, but the problem with that is that it would make me a quitter. There's not really any simple answer on how to deal with a job you hate and that grinds at your soul, but the best option imo is to "get the fuck outta there". Almost every day my mantra was "I need to get the fuck outta here" and I did, towards my dream job.

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What’s your dream job

Fracket said:

What’s your dream job

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I was looking for something remote, somewhat technical, and provided me with a good state of financial freedom. The role being remote was a mandate for me after what I had gone through. I'm a data analyst now, but I was lucky to have gotten what I wanted and a lot more with a good company.

sza said:

I used to work in a warehouse for a major distribution company as a supervisor of three different areas of "the floor" as they would call it. One area held the responsibility over roughly 120 associates, the other much less but held some of the most valuable items to be distributed which contributed to a massive importance in moving its volume (accompanied with obstacles at every turn to move said volume), and the other I was meant to solely be responsible for a group of 40 women of varying ages. It was 10 hours a day, 4 days a week, 1hr 30min commute, but the stress of each day was so immense, that the extra 2 days were basically non existent.

This is the worst job I've ever had in my life, and one of the mechanisms I employed to deal with it, was making sure that it would be the worst job I would ever have in my life. To your questions; while each day withered me down further and further, I hyper focused at any point of my free time (even during work) on a plan to find a job that would be the complete opposite. I applied everywhere, including within the company, politicked with people in the company who where I wanted to be, had multiple interviews, multiple failures, near successes (the worst kind of failures). Although it would take me roughly 600 applications to get where I am now, with each application, 3 stage interview, company ghosting, etc. tearing at me along the way, the fact that I was putting forth that effort made it easier to deal with the stress of the job I had. I wouldn't stop until I had succeeded because I had no choice. The simple answer for dealing with the challenges presented to you is to throw your all at it and be professional even when you hate it at all. In my eyes at the time, I could not afford compromise myself because the company was a Forbes 500, there was upward mobility in that warehouse, and I didn't want to make a habit of burning bridges on my career path. I rustled with the idea of quitting a lot, but the problem with that is that it would make me a quitter. There's not really any simple answer on how to deal with a job you hate and that grinds at your soul, but the best option imo is to "get the fuck outta there". Almost every day my mantra was "I need to get the fuck outta here" and I did, towards my dream job.

In your case, you don't seem to be nearly as desperate to escape your situation as I was, so your method of dealing with stress and conquering challenging obstacles will be different. If you truly want to find peace with where you work, but are finding it hard, maybe try for a different role in that same building, that same area of work? Something to shake up the daily autonomy.

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This was great to read @sza , very true for so many people. Honestly, it holds lots of hope for me. Whilst I enjoy my job, I am desperate to move to something else within the same Company/Sector so this is great to know. These things are always hard as you feel like the only one who experiences it, so many times through life do you think others are just sailing through and you are having to deal with hell. It goes to show that just because we appear happy or hard-working with what we do, it doesn't mean we don't long for more or even something else.

I hope you are happy with what you do now, and a MASSIVE well-done for going through all of that and coming out the other side better off. I am sure that was extremely hard.

Vixx said:

This was great to read @sza , very true for so many people. Honestly, it holds lots of hope for me. Whilst I enjoy my job, I am desperate to move to something else within the same Company/Sector so this is great to know. These things are always hard as you feel like the only one who experiences it, so many times through life do you think others are just sailing through and you are having to deal with hell. It goes to show that just because we appear happy or hard-working with what we do, it doesn't mean we don't long for more or even something else.

I hope you are happy with what you do now, and a MASSIVE well-done for going through all of that and coming out the other side better off. I am sure that was extremely hard.

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Thanks! I wish you success as well. I definitely know how terrible it can get physically and mentally, and wouldn't wish it on anyone.

i quitted my job