My dad
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Really wish you the best of luck, I know the stress of a parent being in the hospital and you don't know whats going on
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Hey guys.
This may be one of my last updates in this thread.
As of today, it's been declared that my dad's situation is entirely incurable, and unimprovable. Today he suffered a third liver coma after only 4 days without being connected to various machines, and it's gotten to the point where they cannot even perform dialysis or a transplant, neither for the kidneys nor the liver. Dialysis and transplants are the only way to help his kidneys. A transplant is the only thing that'd really help his liver. A transplant operation can and will kill him, and the same goes for dialysis. Dialysis should've started ages ago, before his situation worsened this much, but as they say, hindsight is 20/20.
From this point forward, all we can do is try to make his remaining time with us as good as possible. A nurse suggested sending him to a nursing home with someone to take care of him every day, but it's not something my family can afford, and we know he'd hate us for sending him there. But, if it's what's best for him, we must.
During his liver coma today, he proved himself to be a danger to not just himself, but also to the people around him, and three people had to pin him down in his bed to make sure he didn't hurt anyone around him or himself. They did say they might have to sedate him if he continues being violent, but fact is that even being sedated could have catastrophic consequences.
He was supposed to come home today.
We can't do anything anymore.
This may be one of my last updates in this thread.
As of today, it's been declared that my dad's situation is entirely incurable, and unimprovable. Today he suffered a third liver coma after only 4 days without being connected to various machines, and it's gotten to the point where they cannot even perform dialysis or a transplant, neither for the kidneys nor the liver. Dialysis and transplants are the only way to help his kidneys. A transplant is the only thing that'd really help his liver. A transplant operation can and will kill him, and the same goes for dialysis. Dialysis should've started ages ago, before his situation worsened this much, but as they say, hindsight is 20/20.
From this point forward, all we can do is try to make his remaining time with us as good as possible. A nurse suggested sending him to a nursing home with someone to take care of him every day, but it's not something my family can afford, and we know he'd hate us for sending him there. But, if it's what's best for him, we must.
During his liver coma today, he proved himself to be a danger to not just himself, but also to the people around him, and three people had to pin him down in his bed to make sure he didn't hurt anyone around him or himself. They did say they might have to sedate him if he continues being violent, but fact is that even being sedated could have catastrophic consequences.
He was supposed to come home today.
We can't do anything anymore.
god fucking dammit, I was really hoping for him to get well.
When my dad was on his death bad I was there for some time and left, it was hard for me to be with him and not being able to do something.
If it is too hard for you leave, it will do more harm to you to stay and suffer, there is no shame in it.
Remember that you need to take care of your self too and don't let yourself go down. Its hard to go up again. Its been 6 years and I still heal from that time.
Prepare for the day after, its gonna be harder
When my dad was on his death bad I was there for some time and left, it was hard for me to be with him and not being able to do something.
If it is too hard for you leave, it will do more harm to you to stay and suffer, there is no shame in it.
Remember that you need to take care of your self too and don't let yourself go down. Its hard to go up again. Its been 6 years and I still heal from that time.
Prepare for the day after, its gonna be harder
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Really sorry to hear this Niko. Sending my love.
Not sure how to respond but to send my condolences. If you need me you know where to find me, don't let this take you down.
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So sorry to hear this 
Shit man, I know the feeling, if you need someone to talk to, I am here for you
Hope it gets better man, your Dad wouldn't want you to be depressed playing Perp all day, fuck the depression, get up, eat good, socialise with friends, go apply for a gym membership, get fit, do it all for your Dad, I doubt your Dad would want you to be crying and depressed, do you and don't listen to anyone who's tryna bring you down, stick in your own field and lane and boss it all.
Just make sure you don't fall to much to depression because its hard to get out, give yourself some time and then pull yourself and go on. living the past wont help no one.
