Rules are strict for an incentive to get people to stop breaking them, hence the durations and strictness, everybody including yourself knows what would happen if rule breaks and punishment severity wasn't so strict, It'll just give an excuse for people to get away with their rule breaks ruining other people's experience because they know they'll get off lightly.
like even if you try to do good rp you probally end up getting banned. Like you cant do good rp unless your breaking 3.4 like wtf thats mabye why people arent roleplaying that seriously
I don't know how you come to this conclusion, You can't do good roleplay AND break rules at the same time just because you're doing good roleplay, Good roleplay on a serious playing server like PH can be, shouldn't be rewarded and give you the excuse to excuse the rules.
Everybody will want this, until they don't. You tone down the PVP within the server and I guarantee there will be more complaints than currently. More reasoning to play jobs over growing = less raids, more pvpers complaining & more pvpers quitting.