@CensoredExe what i'm saying is there will always be a group who feel marginalized when you use any type of word to express dislike towards anything.
if he had called it stupid, then people who feel inadequate about their abilities in school will feel marginalized, for example
but imagine how ridiculous it would be to censor people over the word stupid, that's a one way ticket to losing the trust of a good chunk of your playerbase because you want to coddle everyone and make sure they all feel comfortable on the server, but there will always be people who feel uncomfortable no matter what, you cannot change that.
im not saying its okay to be homophobic, and im not saying racism is okay either, when it comes to real life threats towards marginalized groups or when the harassment goes above and beyond in-game to the point where they cannot escape it and it massively affects their gameplay, then sure, im on the same boat as you.
but at the end of the day i think the simpler and easier solution is to help people understand that they cannot hide from negative things in life, racists will be racists regardless of anything and the same applies to anyone else who discriminates people based on something they cannot control, you cannot change that, what you can change however is your mindset towards their irrational hatred towards you, accept it for what it is but don't let it affect you at all, this is coming from someone who is a minority living in western europe where 90% of people are predominantly white and has had multiple run-ins with people who took a massive poopy on me because of my ethnicity
tl;dr: if you're part of a marginalized group and cannot figure out the difference between someone using a word in a non-malicious attempt towards you and someone actually using the word in a malicious attempt towards you then you have bigger problems than a player in-game calling a rule "gay"
